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Weekly wisdom #2: Be unapologetically yourself

Every week* I will do a post called ‘weekly wisdom’. Here I’ll talk to you about one topic that stuck with for the whole week. And with my latest obsession of podcasts growing even more, I thought I needed to write down the things I’ve learned so far. So I can always have a look at them from time to time. What better way to do that than to share it with you at the same time?

 

*Still struggling with the consistency part here. I need to work on that….


Why do we have such a hard time being ourselves? Ourselves as in our most amazing beautiful self. Your personality and your soul make you who you are. You being you is what makes you special. So now let me ask you again: Why do we still struggle to show our true self?

This is what this weeks wisdom is about: Hiding away who you really are, when being unaplogetically yourself should be your option of choice.

Do you remember the last time you were meeting your best friend?

Maybe you are smiling right now because are thinking about how you were having so much fun. You felt so amazing in your own skin… because you felt accepted. You felt like home. You felt loved. You were able to be your true self.

Now remember the last time you met someone new. How did you feel and how did you act because of that?

If your answer is: I felt awesome and acted like always and showed my true self … than this blogpost might not be what you are looking for.

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When meeting someone new, we often tend to only showing “our” best features. Features that are often not part of whom we actually are. We hold back and stay quiet. We have this picture in our head of how we are supposed to act in order to be liked by this new person. We talk about things we are not interested in just because they like it. We simply hide our best features.

What are your best features? What do you absolutely adore about yourself?

Here are a few things I absolutely adore about myself:

  • My compassion: It doesn’t matter if I have ever been in a similar situation like my friends, I always know how they must be feeling. How I would be feeling if I were in their shoes. That is why the always come to me for advice.

 

  • My craziness: I guess everybody thinks of themselves as some kind of crazy. Get to know me and I’ll show you my kind of crazy.

 

  • My way of motivating myself and others: Countless times I have been told how good I am at motivating, whether it was my colleague at work who was avoiding an unpopular task, or my friend who was putting of working out for a long time.

 

  • My willpower: Well, if I have set my sight on a specific goal that I want to reach – even though it might take me years – I’ll definitely reach it. End of story.

 

  • My way of directly asking for what I want/Saying what I think: My friend once told me that she thinks it is absolutely amazing that I just go for it and ask the questions I desperately want an answer to. What I also like about myself – and it goes hand in hand with directly asking for answers – is my way of saying what I think. Besides a little sensitiveness, I always say what I think.

Now that you have read what I like about myself, don’t you think that I must be unapologetically myself when meeting new people?

Well….sometimes. Not often enough.

This has to change! Not being unapologetically yourself is not acceptable.

Look at all the benefits of being your true self at all times:

  • You always feel confident and good in your own skin because you are not wearing a heavy and uncomfortable mask

 

  • People love you for who you are because they only know your true self and not a polished, shiny and kind of fake version of you. This will save you from unnecessary disappointments.

 

  • #YourVibeAttractsYourTribe, there is a special magic surrounding you when you are unapologetically yourself. This magic attracts the people you need in your life. The ones who enrich your life on a daily basis.

 

  • You will find your path. And you will only find your path if you are in peace with yourself and show that.

 

  • You life will be so much more chilled because you will always have your own back. Because you like yourself. Because you are in a good relationship with yourself. Diane von Fürstenberg once said: The most important relationship you have in your life, is the one with yourself.

My loves, I want to open your eyes to all the positivity being yourself brings with it. I want you to start showing the world how awesome you are. The world needs more people who are unapologetically themselves. Don’t try to inspire everybody around you to do the same (I mean do it! That is awesome!… but) start with you.! The first step to change is within you.

Do not waste your life away trying to be sombody else just to fit in, be liked by certain people, get a certain job…. Life is too precious.

 

 

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Oh, spring – What I am looking for

„What is this weird thing that all the bloggers have with holding flowers in their hands?“ I asked myself before taking these pictures. This morning I was out with my mum for breakfast, we came across this cute shop and I treated myself to some beautiful spring-ish flowers. No second thoughts behind this. I did not plan to use them for pictures. Well, we see how that worked out.
In a weird way I am always super inspired by other bloggers posts about their goals, like for example Alena. After reading about what she gets excited for in spring, I got inspired to share my goals too. What about your goals? Don’t be shy and share them below this post.  So what is it about the season that comes after winter? I do love winter and I can’t get enough of it when everything is covered in snow. Still, there is something so magical about spring. It is accompanied by the same magic that comes with new beginnings in general.

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It couldn’t be more of a coincidence that my university time is coming to an end at the beginning of spring. This screams for a blogpost about thoughts I have on the upcoming months.

My spiritual goals

More positive vibes

With every day that passes by, I am getting more and more a “positive vibes” kind of a person. I can’t stand it when I am surrounded by negative energy. This spring I want to nix the negative energy out of my aura even more.  I will distance myself from people who are no longer on the same page as I am and I will be spreading more and more positive vibes myself. Living in and spreading an aura of positivity is going to help me with my stress levels. Long story short: I will be giving it my all to spread positive vibes everywhere I go.

Be at peace

Wow, is it getting a little bit too spiritual over here? Naaaah, I don’t think so. Being at peace can have a different meaning for everybody. For me it stands for: being at peace with myself and the path that is my life. As cheesy as it sound, (almost) everything is going to happen as it should be. Sometimes, in the hectic periods of life, I tend to forget that. Then I get anxious. I get stressed and I might even freak out. Being at peace with my path is making life so much more peaceful… even when everything around me is going crazy. Being at peace with my path goes hand in hand with being at peace with me and myself. My goal for spring is to calm down and start trusting the journey again. It will all work out.

My goals for my future path

Find out what my first steps after university will be

This undertaking has had its place on my agenda for a quite some time now. Last year already, I started to think about my life after uni, the thought of it excites me. However, I didn’t want to rush things and make huge plans before knowing for sure that I pass my last exam and my bachelor thesis. I am still waiting for my bachelor thesis but I have a good feeling. My goal for this spring is to come up with concrete plans – actions plans – for my future path. This will be though because my thoughts and wishes for the future are all over the place. If I don’t want to end up where I don’t want to be I have to take this seriously and start making concrete choices. At the same time, I have to focus on not only finding a path that makes me – the human being with feelings and emotions – happy but find the path that makes the GirlBoss in me happy.
What is the human being with feelings and emotions looking for? What is my inner GirlBoss looking for? I’ll make another special blogpost about that.

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My goals for my health & fitness

Listen to my body – just like Sarah

Currently I am in this mood again, where I don’t feel like working out …. like at all. I feel tired and like I need a break from heavy HIIT workouts (which I normally adore!). The thing is, I cannot allow myself to only workout out when “I feel like it” because then my inner lazy girl would always win in the end. So my goal for this spring is to let go of the idea that my workouts always have to be super intense and sweaty. Yoga can be intense too but in a way more gentle way. And I would still beat my inner lazy girl. Listening to my body and doing what feels good has to be one of my priorities this spring. Working out but only what my body actually feels like doing.

Re-focus on nutrition again

Through watching every single one of Sarah’s videos (she is my own personal fitness and life inspo) I have learned that it is so important to eat the foods that your body needs to thrive. Of course, that also means listening to your body and allowing yourself some treats. In my case it goes way beyond this. My goal for this spring is to invest more time in cooking fresh meals and putting more thought into my nutrition again. I want my body to have all the nutrients that it needs. The past weeks I have let my good eating patterns slip a little too much.

My goals for my blog

Not beating myself up

Actually, I thought it would be easier to post regularly. Well, it isn’t … especially if you are having a full time job with different shifts. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to complain. Not at all.  My goal for this spring is to accept the fact that my daily routine is not a routine at all and that I struggle with creating good content on a regular basis. It is ok and I am not going to beat myself up about it. As always I will do my best and create content whenever I have to opportunity to. Like today.

Okay people, this is it. I have written another blogpost and I hope your enjoy and treasure it as they don’t come regularly.

 

 

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A book about how to deal with people – Review

Don’t judge a book by its cover.

When lacking of motivation or inspiration, I am always on the lookout for new inspiring books that actually add value to my life. Which ones are your faves? There are so many of inspiring books out there and some will fit you more than others. We tend to judge books by their cover, like literally. I don’t like the font. I don’t like the cover. I don’t …  I am guilty of this as well! But you might miss out on some great books like this one. My first thought was “how can a book published in 1936 add any value to my life in 2017?” (I bought it last year). Oh god, I was so wrong.


 

 

Yep, the title might be a bit confusing at first and I was scared to read this book in public. Nobody wants to be seen reading a book on how to win friends. The title doesn’t do this book enough justice because it is so much more than a guide on how to win friends and influence others.

 

 

 

Even though this book was written over 82 years ago, it is still so relevant to our live in 2018. Dale Carnegie basically talks about how to handle and get along with people and still be yourself…. just a smarter version of yourself. I have experienced this myself that I often find myself in situations where I don’t know how to react or what to say or how to say it. In encounters with other people there is not always a positive connection and vibe right from the beginning … maybe there never will be one. Instead, you will see misunderstandings, antipathy, disrespect and a whole lot more. It sounds so sad, even though it is the truth. I am sure you have found yourself in situations like this a few dozen times. Am I right?

Think of your workplace for example. You want to be a good employee and get along with everybody (attention: not be liked by everyone. There is a difference), work hard and feel good and comfortable while being at work. But there is this one person (colleague, boss…), who misunderstands everything you do or say no matter what. You are about to give up and accept that you and this person will never get along. You are not meant to get along. If you have read Dale Carnegies book already, you know that you don’t have to get along with this person, you just have to make them believe you do. You are smarter and the person, who is more experience in dealing with people.  With your actions and words, you will take control over this situation and lead it so it becomes bearable for you again.

This book will teach you way:

  • to make people like you (even though they couldn’t stand you before)
  • to win people to your way of thinking (without having to force them to)
  • to change people without arousing resentment (and letting go of their bad habits)

 

 

 

So many phrases spoke to me, so I marked them all. From time to time, I go through some of them to keep them in mind in my daily life.

 

“… The human individual thus lives far within his limits. He posseses powers of various sorts which he habitually fails to use”

 

“By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment”

 

“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity”

 

“Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do”

 

“One of the most neglected virtues of our daily existence is appreciation”

 

“We are interested in others when they are interested in us”

 

“You must have a good time meting people if you expect them to have a good tie meeting you”


Remembering all the times that there was a misunderstanding between me and another person just because we both have not been able to communicate correctly makes me sad. Also, I do remember countless times when I was misunderstood by other people. All of those encounters make me want to work on myself and learn a whole lot more about the art of communication and dealing with social settings.

If you are looking for a book that is based on pure truth and common sense, a book that is not re-inventing social settings, a book that is going to open your eyes to the obvious… then this is the right book for you!

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2018 – Let’s do this

Recently I uploaded my monthly recap of December. Two days later, I am already working on a new blogpost. Who am I?
Let’s talk about goals for 2018. There are different types of goals. All of them can be roughly characterized as tangible or intangible. Which ones to go for is of course totally up to you. Personally, I always try to go with the intangible ones. Things that make my soul happy in the long term and not only for a few days. I don’t want to lie to you by saying that I do not have tangible things I look forward to (hello new phone) but those are not things I put on my ‘Goals for 2018’ list. They are not something I strive and breathe for. They do not make me a better person. Even more important is that they do not define me as a person. But those intangible ones do.

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What are those intangible ones I am talking about? Here are a few of my goals for 2018. By goals I actually mean plans … a goal without a plan is getting you nowhere.

  • Listen to my body. Treating and feeding it the way it needs to be treated and fed. I used to believe that I just have to live with the way my body looks or reacts to certain things. Yes, most of the time, I have to accept that. Yes, I’m fine with that. Yes, I learned to love and accept my body … But there are still a few things that I can influence to make me feel more confident with my body. Currently I am still researching a lot about this topic. What are your health hacks for 2018?
  • Less overthinking and stressing. I could literally write a whole book about that topic. Every day I tell myself to relax and not let everything get to me. I fail. Pretty much 90% of the time. Often I let small, unimportant situations make me upset. I don’t like me that way. So I’ll work on this issue. Step by step. This going to be a challenge. I remember that someone wrote about me in our high school yearbook that one day I’ll die of my ‘self-made’ stress. Hahah. Do see the challenge behind this now?
  • Be even more confident. Last year, there were encounters with people, who totally got the wrong impression of me because somehow I still was not confident enough to be myself. Which is somehow also funny at the same time because I am actually really confident. Just not around certain people.
  • Just let it be and stop chasing people. Another one of my specialities I talked about in this blogpost once. I used to believe that it is normal to run after people to make them see how much they actually like me. Yep. That’s what I used to believe. Embarrassing right?

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My list of plans for 2018 should not get to long, especially because those plans mentioned above are big ones. They cannot be realised within a few days. I am curious now: tell me about your plans for 2018! Do you have similar ones? Are you going more for the intangible or tangible ones?

 

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